WHY THE DIVORCE?

People enter into marriage relationships with the sole aim of bettering their lives, to achieve what they couldn’t while single, to have somebody to fall to when the chips are down, and for procreation. It did not just start overnight. It took a whole lot of personal commitment, self denials, assessments, multiple dating / courting  which finally landed into a marriage. All these were done to ensure that “I’M MARRIED TO THE RIGHT PERSON”.

But you may ask, ‘WHY THE DIVORCE LATER?’

          Was it that the above points were not put in place?

          Was it that you were blinded by your emotions then?

          Was it that you were forced (or coerced) into it?

          Was it that you were ill advised?

          Was it that you were deceived?

          Was it that you made the wrong choice and now you want to re-write the wrongs?

          Was it that you did it out of peer pressure?

          Was it that you did it to still be at par with friends?

Of all the wounds a human may receive, the person can recover easily and fully except emotional wounds. Emotional wounds are so deep in the mind than can be imagined or explained. Worst of the all, the scar hardly goes. More so, it opens door to her sisters like depression, hatred, anxiety, worries, and anger.

BELOW ARE THE NUGGETS TO STAY OUT OF DIVORCE

          There is no perfect mate anywhere. They exist in the cemetery.

          Never do things out of pressure (even marriage).

          Enter marriage with ‘your two eyes open’ (do not be blinded by emotions).

          Call a spade a spade. Do not give room for pretence.

          Learn from others whose marriages have not broken up and know their secrets. Have them as your mentors.

          Do not enter it for benefit of having safe sex.

          Do not be allow your friends comment whose marriage failed as a yardstick for yours.

          Be optimistic, confident and resolute about your marriage.

          Do not bring your marriage or relationship to public debate.

          Learn to understand your partner’s emotions.

Learn to understand your partner’s habits and choices.

Develop personal integrity, character and be objective.